Ex says he's confused

I may have a slightly different perspective on this than some, as I got back together with someone 9 months after we broke up, where we went through a period of both us being “confused”.

Not that I’d recommend it exactly– I mean it was a confusing period of time. But we did eventually work through that and figure out that we really wanted to be together. But that did happen slowly, over a period of months of talking it through, being friends (and this is key: NOT sleeping together until we were sure we wanted to give it another try). We truly were just “friends” in the sense of not being lovers, but the feelings were very much still there.

The key is this: yes, giving space when one person is having hesitations. You don’t want to push them — both people are skittish.

But the bottom line is that unless the original problems have been sorted out, the reconcilliation won’t work anyway… so my bigger question is– how would things be different now? If you guys can’t answer that, you’ll probably be looking at another breakup

Occassionally though, people do get time and space to think things through and realize they want to be together. In my experience, for myself, and hearing stories of others were it has worked out, some time needs to pass. It’s not a thing to be rushed into.

Yes it was strange for us to stop talking after 3 Years. I would say it was mutual.. he did contact me after a month and I wasn’t ready to talk to him. I’m giving him his space. I don’t think It’s over I really think he wants to think about everything we talked about over the last couple days. He’s always been slow on the emotional processing. It very well maybe too late for us. I just can’t stop replaying the conversations in my head. Why tell me how much you think about me and how much you miss me and how you can’t stop thinking about me? I know no one has the answers just feels good to get it off my chest here.

my ex boyfriend broke up with me after we argue because i keep on asking quality time from him,we fight and we ended up the relationship because he says he cannot give more than what he is giving,..he makes a lot of effort for our almost 3 years of being into relationship,but sometimes to quality time because he is busy in work…but after we fight he ended up saying he needs space and our relationship isnt working anymore,that he cant find me as his wife in the future and he wants to find his future,..and its only me who keeps on holding on to our relationship.we broke up 2 weeks ago and no speaking,but i txt him recently and he respond quickly and telling he wants to make friends with me but cannot touch me anymore,.what i should do?