Did I mess up badly?..my mistake and/or his signals..

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    I will keep this simple and short.

    so I met this guy online, we talked for more than one week and decided to meet up. He showed me around since I moved to the area not long ago. we went to grab some dinner and unconsciously I just did not offer to pay half of it or anything.. I am usually shy and not comfortable if guy pays for me, but somehow i was setback. It felt terrible at first, but he did not say anything.. I wanted to ask if it’s okay, or should I pay him back, but i did not!! after that we went to another place again and I was about to offer to pay, but I was so confused about his signals and words he was saying when offering to choose something that I just completely lost it…After that we just looked all around the place and before leaving we went for a drink… same happened again. So in the end i ended up not paying for anything, nor even offering to pay for it! I felt like an asshole, since it was not really like a date or anything.

    when we left our own ways – he kissed me ( we also were touchy all the time that we spent together, he even held my hand many times before..) and told me to message him if i get home safely, i did so.. He replied the next day only, I replied back, but never got any reply back from him anymore! (it has been 3 days since then)
    I don’t know what to do/feel… I really liked him, I couldn’t even sleep for the night.. I am so confused. Did i do something wrong.. or ?..

    Thanks for any advice…
    I’m really lost right now

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    Unfortunately this is one of the things that happens when dating – online or off. I don’t think it’s because you didn’t pay (or offer to pay) or why would he have continued the date after dinner? Sometimes people go on a date, have a perfectly nice time, even kiss at the end of it, then go home and for whatever reason think “they were nice, but I don’t think I’ll see them again”. You’re probably going to go through the same thing more than once while dating, just have a good time on the dates, and try not to get too invested in someone while chatting or meeting them the first few times.

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