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  • #424708 Reply
    Heyseattle

    Gone on 3 dates with this guy. On Wednesday he asks when am free i say weekend is fine . He suggests we meet this Sunday for coffee…i agree to it. This conversation we had on Wednesday…its now Saturday evening…not had from him since then…date is tomorrow…no venue or specific time!! should I text him to confirm or wait it out…im a bit annoyed by the fact there’s no communication from his side..

    #424711 Reply
    Sin

    Hi, I’d suggest that you make alternate plans as I would have expected him to zero down on the time and venue by Saturday afternoon latest. In case he texts you at night/ tomorrow morning, tell him that you waited to hear from him but since he did not confirm you made other plans. He should know that he has to respect your time.

    #424727 Reply
    Talllady

    You have a date set, he has till 10 am tmrw to figure out more details because it is coffee… In my opinion…

    #424728 Reply
    Talllady

    I meant 10 am Sunday…..

    #424735 Reply
    redcurleysue

    OK – I am going out on a limb here but a Sunday coffee is not really a “date” – it is more of a meeting and does not have the normal constraints in my opinion.

    I would meet with him if you can anytime Sunday morning….if he calls before noon on Sunday I would meet him. If he calls after that I would have already made plans for Sunday afternoon.

    #424807 Reply
    Heyseattle

    Thanks for all the responses. input appreciated.

    well it’s four pm Sunday…I’ve not heard a single word from him…his visibly online for most part of the day… why he didn’t have the decency to cancel I don’t understand.. I feel my time has been disrespected…I dont know what to say if he does contact me…i cant think of a valid reason he can have for bailing on Me.

    #424812 Reply
    Sin

    HeySeattle, Well it’s the sad truth that some guys do indeed just ‘vanish’ without a reason. The reason could be anything right from him forgetting to him having met another girl, but the point is that he has not respected your time. When he does contact you please make it clear that you’re used to be treated in a certain way and firmly tell him that you do not appreciate such flakey Behaviour. Also since he’s been online most of the time, he can surely take 2 seconds off to send a text and cancel the coffee.

    #424819 Reply
    Dauny

    Visibility on line could be somebody using his computer, and maybe he forgot about the vague plans for Sunday. Don’t worry about it. Don’t contact him, and when he contacts you, and he will, don’t even mention Sunday. Act as if you forgot too. There was no time and place set. It was not a date. Be cool. Next time make other plans and forget about it too.

    #424824 Reply
    Heyseattle

    Hey sin…thank you for the response you were right from the start….he wasn’t respecting my time..ill make that clear if he does initiate contact..

    dauny..this man is usually very active on whatsapp..so I’m pretty sure he didn’t just leave it on and he uses his phone..maybe he forgot idk? but if he was interested in seeing me he wldnt be forgetting.. but yes I won’t be initiating any contact or asking about it..

    #424837 Reply
    talllady

    If he contacts you, just ignore him, unless it starts with an apology. Not ok to stand you up. Next.

    #424848 Reply
    Heyseattle

    And……he just texted me this !!!

    “about the coffee meetup was to text you at midday today but I kinda blacked out.”

    I agree Tallady I will not be responding to this. I find it very callous, he’s brushing it off like it was nothing. and I’m not buying his excuse either ! sounds very lame to me…I wish it at least came with an apology or a courtesy phone call?? wow some men really have a nerve !

    #424851 Reply
    Dauny

    I’m still old school on online dating. Haven’t tried any of the apps. Stopped looking a couple years ago when tried eharmony and spent all that time answering 1000 questions, matched up with ONE guy, started messaging. Read the answers to his questions. About half way through I saw that he completely reversed his position on values, politics, religion, etc, so I wasn’t sure what he was really about…then on match, pof, Cupid, and even…God help me…our time. I get hundreds of hits from men who look like Santa Claus. Yeah, I’m sure they can keep up with me and meet my needs. Dream on papa–get back in your own league. I look damn good for 51 and am in excellent shape. I was able to find a couple of guys I felt were in the same league, but it was overall really depressing. Anyway, this diverges, but what are good dating apps? I haven’t used any.

    #424855 Reply
    Dauny

    Yeah, his text was stupid. Once in college a guy, that I did not even like romantically, it was a friendship we tried to see where it could go, he made me wait while he was four hours late. I let him have it (yelled at him) and he admitted his Dad had told him to act like that so I didn’t get the “big head”. I told him I already had the big head, and I didn’t like him enough for a game like that to even work. I dumped him immediately and unmercifully because he gave me the “Icks” at that point, which simply means I was turned off to the point of no return.
    You’re doing the right thing. Now he will chase you though.

    #424865 Reply
    Heyseattle

    Daunty thank u for sharing your college story…while it’s a different decade from this one of generation y..it’s pretty much same script different cast. .and this time men are not being told by their fathers to behave in a certain way…they’re just choosing to be classless and jerks at their own peril lol…he’s in his 30s

    and I laughed at the Santa Claus comment! about dating sites…I know of match, e-harmony okcupid..there are a ton more…but I was on cupid since December.. met an incredible guy…dated for 2 months…he ghosted on me in Feb…( No idea why till date) he contacted me in April to find put how was doing…nothing more.. I assumed he lost interest and didn’t have nerve to tell me..

    this guy I’ve posted abt also met him on Cupid in Early April….obviously I’m not having so much luck with online dating so ive decided to take a hiatus and concentrate on other aspects in my life!

    isn’t it nice to be 51 and still be all gorgeous and sexy? I’d say keep looking and don’t settle for anything less!

    #424879 Reply
    Sin

    HeySeattle, there’s something off about that text. I mean who blacks out at mid day? And there wasn’t any apology, nothing. I agree with talllady, just don’t reply. Not worth it.

    #424882 Reply
    Tallady

    Who the hell knows, and it doesn’t matter. Just delete. If he comes back later, just say…

    Listen, being stood up and not really getting an apology feels icky. We’ve only met a few times, think I am gonna pass on further contact. Good luck!

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