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    M

    “I feel like I don’t know what I’m doing wrong that no one finds me worth it enough or feels a connection with me to stick around”

    This sentence speaks volumes. “no one finds me worth it” – I would bet that this is the real issue. You doubt your worth. You can say that you know you’re beautiful, successful, etc, etc. Intellectually, you know you have a lot to offer but deep down, you doubt your own worth. Sit with that, you don’t have to defend or respond, but feel that. if you feel a reaction, that’s a really good indicator that it’s true, whether you’re consciously aware of it or not.

    Unfortunately, there is no magic pill that will cure you of this doubt, and I’m sure we all feel that way sometimes. But knowing it’s there might be a helpful first step. It gives you something to work with. I’m sure you didn’t do anything wrong, but if you have the belief that you aren’t worthy somehow, it will come across in subtle ways. People might not even be able to pinpoint what it is, but your mind will create a self-fulfilling prophecy because that’s what our minds are good at doing.

    Hugs

    #566710 Reply
    M

    I always recommend Dr. Stan Tatkin’s work. Wired for Dating is a great book and if you enjoy audio programs, I highly recommend Your Brain on Love… it’s about 8 hours of audio. I would get both, but Wired for Dating gives a good overview and some ideas on how to communicate in ways that will weed out the guys who aren’t worth your time, and also ways that will show more vulnerability in a really mature way that will draw good men closer to you.

    #566713 Reply
    Hannah

    Men definitely get a vibe from women, even ones they’re not dating. My husband recently met 2 women I’ve got to know. His instant opinion was “sex-starved man eater” on one and “insecure, clingy women who’s desperate for a man’ about the other. The thing is he’s totally right about both of them!

    I was just fascinated that he worked it out within minutes of meeting them! Neither of them had mentioned men or dating. He didn’the know anything about them. It was the vibe they were giving off.

    Both are having issues with dating. The first one only finds men that want sex and the second has one date and the guy disappears. I’m assuming other guys apart from my husband are picking up those same vibes.

    #566715 Reply
    M

    Sounds about right. thanks for sharing that with us, Hannah!

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