Boyfriend is MIA!

I agree with talllady that this is pretty unacceptable. Although there are not many details that you provide, in my opinion you are justified in contacting him for resolution/closure. Have you tried contacting him at all?

Is this ok with you? Because I get that men need a cave, but really healthy ones have ways of dealing with things that include their partners. I am not impressed.

Hi Keira Su.

Just relax. Guys need to handle things in their own way and it doesn’t appear related to you, but something that’s going on with is friend. Sure it would have been nice for him to give you a heads up, but unfortunately men aren’t the intuitive specie. When he reaches out again just say “I understand you need your space but in the future please give me a heads up as to what’s going on and how much you may need so I don’t fret.”

My guy disappeared for 10 days and then sprang back as if he didn’t take the space. I just did my thing and allowed him to “check in” when he was ready to do so. Men are from MARS, they really are!

I personally would not like it either.

All you can do is wait til he comes out of it and see if he had a good enough reason.

It would have to be something big for me to tolerate that behavior. If you are in a committed relationship for a year, there is zero reason to go silent for a week without explanation.

That’s selfish, and unlike Lane I have never had a man who is into me ever do such a thing. You can bet if you did that to him, it would not be tolerated.

See what he comes back with … Listen patiently but don’t be a door mat.

call me a princess, whatever, and i’ve learned not to judge a guy by how much he texts, etc.

if he’s chasing you and you’re not exclusive yet, he’ll always follow up very soon. and text you/call pretty often

if i am in a relationship, i expect my boyfriend to text/call everyday. it takes just going to the bathroom to ask how your day is… especially if he works a lot. maybe a day or two some guys need, but that long would be unacceptable.

if my bf did that, i’d activate my online dating profile already.

Oh yeah, after almost 6 months of dating my man disappeared. No contact, no texts, no nothing. I have NOT made any contact with him yet to find out what is up with him and it will be almost 1 month of MIA!!!!! If he really liked/loved me he would NOT go MIA in my opinion. Could be he decided, I was not the one for him, or he found a new lady. Who knows! Doesn’t matter. All i know is to end us this way is childish, wrong, and immature!!!!!!! I forgot hurtful too! He is a coward!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so done with him and back on dating sights once again!!! Is this man of yours worth the pain and agony? If he was a great match for you, he wouldn’t put you through this torment!!!! My opinion!

That is extremely inconsiderate of him if you ask me. I wouldn’t be able to tolerate that type of behavior. Not even for a few days. What does he expect? For you to just relax while he’s off doing who knows what? What’s the big secret? The lack of communication about? What is he trying out a new girlfriend…while you stupidly await for him to appear? No way. A little common courtesy on his part would be a requirement. I’d HAVE TO communicate! Never mind this guessing nonsense. If he was MIA and didn’t contact me, there’s no way I’d deal with that.

He came back, apologized profusely, and told me he realized that he was wrong. I’m still trying to see how it goes with him, but he definitely going out of his way to make it right. Flowers, massage, candlelight dinners, and the contact has doubled.I am being cautious, but this attention is nice. I have forgiven him. This is entirely him. We will see how it goes from here. I still don’t know what his friend said as I didn’t ask, but he realozed how that it was not healthy for him to disappear. I just wanted to update you.

I’m glad he contact you, and I’m glad he appears to have recognised he was wrong and apologised. You are so right to be cautious- well done. He has acted very badly and selfishly. Lane as ever has given bizarre advise… so now the lady with the high standards is happy for her guy to ignore her for ten days? It isn’t. It’s thoughtless and disrespectful and actually leaving him to it and letting him pick up where he left off, with the woman pretending she’s ok with it sends him a message that you’ll take bad behaviour

Girl… I’m going to be blunt as hell.

My boyfriend of six months did this to me. No contact for 9 Days. Guess what!? Turns out he was cheating on me and sleeping at another woman’s house the whole time.

I’m telling you this guy isn’t the one for you! He’s a piece of crap and inconsiderate. You have NO idea what he was doing in that time. He should have been communicating with you. In this day and age there is no excuse. My man broke me and I lost it. I don’t want you to be broken too. End things now before he does this again. He could have been with another woman that whole time and came back to you. You have to know your worth. It’s simple, would you do that to him? Hell no! Run girl. Run.