Ask Me Anything – Sunday, December 13th @ 8 PM ET

Hi, I have been dating different guys for like a long time and I haven’t found a guy that I actually have a connection with but like if I meet a guy I want to take my time to know him but guys don’t want that they ask you for sex right away what should I do? Just keep looking or stop dating? I really don’t know I’ve been single for 4 years now and I would like some love in my life.

Still very unsure of how to ease a man towards at least a conversation about dating in a more formal or committed way. It seems that once you have sex (while not immediate) men are moving on. I get the need for the chase but how do I keep him chasing.

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I was best friends with this guy and we both started to have a thing and then he ended it because he wasn’t ready for a relationship how can I get our friendship back and not make it awkward?

I noticed some guys I meet will pursue me in the begining and then drop it. Should I eventually initiate contact to let them know I’m interested? Is my lack of initiating passing the idea I’m not interested? How can I balance the pushs and pulls?

I will make a long story short. Girl(that’s. Me) starts a new job,girl meets cute coworker,he flirts she flirts,girl turns stupid girl and texts the guy first 3 times every few days for homework,guys backs off, girl expresses feelings(through text),guy doesn’t respond, guy acts rude at work and then turns nice. Basically what I want to know is when you’ve already expressed your feelings to a guy that had genuine interest in you but no longer does because you got clingy. Is there anyway to make him chase you again, or is there anyway to make him interested again? Also why is it after I told him how I felt he’s rude to me at work the day after but then acts nice and helpful the day after that? I’m an 18 yo girl so be brutally honest!

Hello there,
I have this issue that I do not trust men. I’m always afraid i gonna get hurt, I’ve been played to many times that is heart breaking. I’ve work on myself alot, to get back my confidence, to let that role of victim go, I’m trying I know many of the bad experiences that i’ve had are because I lack experience and perspective and put alot in something that wasn’t. But know, I want to remain in control of my life and feelings again, so I can trust and find love, I don’t even do anything because I’m so terrified. What would you recomend me to do?

Also, the relationship with my that has always been some kind of cold. He doesn’t speak too much nor accepts he’s wrong, so for me nowadays is been hard, and I know it’s not his fault but there has to be something related, I always end up with this kind of people that doesn’t speak about their feelings, you see? What would be the best thing for me to do? Is there any hope? I know there is. Thank you in advance if you could answer me.

Hi guy!

I am in school working on my Bachelors and I met this guy who is really sweet, gentlemanly and we have a good time together. There are aa couple issues. Some superficial and some are not. The predominant issue is what he is studying in school he doesn’t actually have an affinity for and I don’t know if I can support him in a career that he will not be successful in… He also seems to be moving a little fast like stating that he wants me in his life for a long time etc. only after a few days of knowing each other and he just now went cold. No contact for a few days and I’m not sure how I feel about it because there are so many deal breakers in place already, but I still kind of like him. Thoughts?

My married ex has reconnected with me in the last couple of months. He is not happy in his 2 year old marriage (arranged by his parents) but says he will compromise and live with her since they just had a baby. We have been in touch for a couple of months but just with texts and since we live in different cities there is no question of cheating. However, his talks do get romantic or emotional from time to time. Since his parents are here because of the baby’s birth, he is surrounded by people. Yet he wants to text/chat with me all the time. I’m unable to understand his motive. He seems to have everything in his life – so why does he need me around him? Should I cut out communication with him? I’m unable to understand his motives.

Also one more – How should I go about reminding my boyfriend of something important without being nagging or annoying?
He isn’t as organized as me and does things at the last minute, which I find is common among all men not just him.
For example, if I need to remind him about a suit for a weeding and make sure he has dress shoes and all the necessary things for an event like that.

Hi guys!

I am in school working on my degree and I met this guy who is really sweet, gentlemanly and we have a good time together. There are aa couple issues. Some superficial and some are not. The predominant issue is what he is studying in school he doesn’t actually have an affinity for and I don’t know if I can support him in a career that he will not be successful in… He also seems to be moving a little fast like stating that he wants me in his life for a long time etc. only after a few days of knowing each other and he just now went cold. No contact for a few days and I’m not sure how I feel about it because there are so many deal breakers in place already, but I still kind of like him. Thoughts?

Does it mean that he’s definitely not seeing me as girlfriend material if a week after date # 2 (the first two were amazing and romantic and he’s shown a ton of respect and affection)
he texts me all day and then eventually invites me over after for what I assume is a hookup?
I am so into him and was really, really dissapointed when he did that, but my friend (male) says that it doesn’t necessarily mean he doesn’t see me as a potential girlfriend in the future. He seemed so “perfect” otherwise.

My bf of 7 mths and I are having difficulties communicating. I know the differences in the way women & men communicate but it seems I am always the one compromising. Many of our disagreements end with him saying that if I love him, I should just “enjoy” our time together. However, he does things & says things that don’t make it enjoyable. He does not take responsibility for any of his bad behaviour or hurtful words. Sometimes he says sorry, sometimes he doesn’t. I try & talk to him which is usually not successful. When should I stop compromising?