5 months in and no 'I love you' yet… weird or no?

I don’t know…I think some people just don’t feel comfortable saying it because it is like a crossroads, with all the things you love about your relationship turning into something else. I’m afraid to say it because it is so powerful of a word to say. It took my last “serious” bf about a year to say it, and he even said he was “in love” with me. This surprised me. I had some very loving feelings toward him, but I never said I love you till he said it firtt…remember: love is arose but you better not pic it, it only grows when it’s on the vine, hand full of thorns and you know you’ve missed it, lose your love when you say the word mine…” Fleetwod Mac, or, Next post

Haha. Nice Dauny! And I think if you love him you should tell him!! :) But I’m kinda crazy and impulsive with stuff like that. I’d say the next time you’re together if you’re overwhelmed with “loving feelings” Lol then just say it. Scary but I think you can FEEL when someone loves you, you know…

Thanks dauny! Those are definitely some powerful lyrics!

Thanks Jenny! I was so sure he was going to say it this weekend. We were out to dinner and talking about the upcoming week, work and some other topics. Out of no where he just looked at me, said “so…” and hesitated. It looked like he wanted to say something but got nervous, hesitated and then brought up something we had talked about earlier. He is not one to hesitate when he is talking about anything. He also isn’t one to get nervous… I know he enjoys being a gentleman and would want to do that first, so that’s why I would leave it to him to do… also it is really nerve-wracking and I would probably start being a bumbling fool if I decided to say it first.

Thanks redcurleysue!

I do feel loved by him! He shows me how much he cares about me in so many different ways, but I think the biggest action he has done us being affectionate to me (kissing me on the forehead, holding my hand…) in front of his mom. His mom means the world to him. To me, those actions means that he isn’t ashamed to show his mom that he cares deeply for me. I don’t know why I want to hear those words but I can see how saying them would scare a man. I honestly don’t think it would change much of our relationship, but it could be something he is considering.

I do plan on waiting for him to say it first. I have read the articles on here that state it is best for the relationship if the man says it first. So that helped me determine that plan. I just wasn’t sure if it was strange that he hadn’t said it yet.

Thanks Bex!

I know it is a very difficult thing to say to someone. What if they don’t love you back? Or don’t say it back? What if the girl wants sup much more from me when I say those the words? I’m sure those are all questions that the guy thinks about (and so much more) before he actually tells the woman this.

I feel like he and his ex shared those the words around the 5 month mark. I do not know who said it first but they also lived a little bit closer than he and I do… I know every relationship is different and these types of steps in the relationship will have a different time frame. That ex and the one before both did a number on him so I don’t know if he is just making certain of things with us prior to opening up those feelings.

I will be spending this weekend with him and a huge group of his friends. We’ll be visiting some family members that I haven’t had the opportunity of meeting yet. And actually getting to spend 3 days together. It will be a great weekend. Hopefully I can just stop wondering when or if it’s going to happen. ..

I believe that their are no rules in Love

And wondering and worrying is useless

I believe that instead of questionning just go with
the flow

You know he cares for you and shows upfront that you are ** His Girl ** and
even in front of His MOM

I am just giving you my humble opinion:

Why worry about something that is not broken
maybe he feels that you are nervous and you aren’t
aware of you know sometimes when we feel a way without
us knowing we send out vibes ?

Maybe he is wondering if you are having 2nd thoughts
he must see the questionning in your eyes.

Let yourself be Loved in the Way he is showing you and
words are just words and I believe he is your Peacock
showing to the World How Precious you are to him

Parading you and making sure you meet everyone and that they know
that you are important because he wants everybody to meet you

He is showing you off to the World ** His World all the people close or
far knows that if he is taking time to share you with all the beloved
family **

You are his Female Peacock and he Loves you and Shows you off to HIS WORLD

** So like the Song Color my World **

Maybe you should try and find that song and Slow Dance with him looking him
straight in the eyes and saying with laughter in your voice and eyes
Am I seeing straight you are acting like a Peacock introducing me to ** Your World **
and then you can say

Babe * You Cover my World * I color and sometimes out of the lines lol

What else can you ask for ** He is showing off the Most Precious Person that he
can Show Love in Public to Whom Ever is in front of you or around you they see
what a beautful couple you both make ** How else than showing the World that he
Loves you

Truly Deeply Shows You that he is into you

I would just open your heart and shine threw with a Twinkle in your Eye
that you are blessed to cherish this man.

Telling you in your ear is not enough for him he is telling

** At the same time of all around and aware to see that you are his Girl **

Thanks for responding Collette and Lane!

That is a really good way of looking at it. I know it is obvious he really cares about me and is falling for me. Even another one of his friends tools me it was obvious that he loves me. She admitted that 5 months might be a little soon especially with our relationship being on the long distance side of it. I just know I love him and almost said it to him this weekend. I know he should be the one who says it first and I definitely tried my hardest to make sure I didn’t. I guess I’m accidentally trying to risk it because I’ve almost said it.

I think he just wants to discuss what the plan in the future would be. I definitely wouldn’t move just yet. I would like to know that it is a for sure thing before making that move. I can decibel see a future with this man and I now know he does too. It seemed like he almost said it yesterday when I was heading home. Kind of stuttered, tongue looked like it was about to say an “l” (meaning went up behind his teeth like it does when you say la), and then changed what he said. I just don’t know if there is a way to get him to not be scared to say it? But it’s a scary thing

Hey girl :) so I’m kind of in this position as well…
A couple weeks ago I actually told him I was in love with him and he didn’t say it back. It was upsetting at the time but his actions towards me have not changed. He tells me I’m his girl and he has called himself my boyfriend. So I’m not too worried. I think he’s just not ready to say it. I’ll add too that we are also long distance (about 2 hours) You’re so lucky you get to see him as often as you do! As of right now I’ve really only been able to see my guy every 2-3 weeks which is straight torture for both of us. (My schedule is jam packed sadly…)

I wouldn’t push the matter…I’m not. Actions speak a lot louder than words IMHO. The words will come later, you already have the actions.

Hi Amy.

Can I ask why you think his actions are better than words? I can dig a hole but unless you know WHY I’m digging a hole then my actions are meaningless! I absolutely disagree with women relying on actions too much because oftentimes they are kicked in the gut when the guy tells them “I thought we were just having fun?” after spending months, and for others MANY YEARS hoping he would finally “come around.”

Guys can ACT like boyfriends but never really want anything more than what you have now…its called ‘companionship.’ A relationship is when you are PROGRESSING towards a goal and if your not progressing towards something, like marriage then your just spending time together, which is OK if that’s what you want, but if not then how long do you hold onto hope? Unless you absolutely know where a man is taking you, then all you have is a road without a map showing your where your destination is. Tread carefully.

I’m doing as Ivy says, “letting the cards fall where they may” Lane.