How Long Before My Ex Moves On? post image

So you have been broken up with, which sounds only slightly better than saying you have been “dumped,” and you want to know how much time you have to get your ex back before he/she moves on to a rebound relationship or something more long term.

So often in life, we find ourselves in situations where timing is crucial. To get the best deal we have to be at the store before they sell out of what we want to buy. To be seriously considered for the job, we have to at least be there on time and excuses for being late will get us nowhere but maybe even make us look worse.

We are taught that being “on time” and reaction time are of the utmost importance. So when the person who is now your ex appears to be “moving on” or is spotted with someone else, we fall back on our training and feel that we have to pounce or else risk losing the one we love forever.

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How wrong that line of thinking usually is.

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No Contact Rule: How Long To Do It post image

Let’s talk about the no contact rule, which is pretty much the most essential thing you can do in order to get your ex back. It is also the most essential thing to do if you want to get over your ex and heal from the breakup. So basically, it’s a win-win. You either get him back, or you fully get over him and are free to move on.

The no contact rule can sound brutal, and strangely permanent. But it’s not. It’s a temporary state that will hopefully lead you to a long-term solution. It is a means to gain clarity, and that clarity may reveal that you and your ex are meant to be and you may finally see the things that prevented you from making it work in the first place, or that clarity might make you realize that he’s not the right guy for you at all.

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The most common question is: how long should I do the no contact rule for?

Let’s break it down and look at the ideal amount of time to go without contacting your ex, and why that will get you maximum results.

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11 Surefire Signs Your Ex Is Over You (and How to Fix It) post image

You and your boyfriend have gone your separate ways, but you still love him and want him back. If you’re holding out hope that you might get back together one day, at some point you may find yourself facing the gut-twisting realization that he seems to be getting over you.

Maybe it’s a gut feeling, maybe a friend tells you something she heard, or maybe his social media activity has been making your heart sink. If it seems like he’s having a blast or he’s with a new girl, it can be hard to watch.

MORE: Hidden Signs Your Ex Still Loves You (Even if He Says He Doesn’t)

But the fact that he’s moving on doesn’t mean all hope is lost. You can almost always get him back, you just need to know what to do, and that’s where I come in.

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16 Hidden Signs Your Ex Wants You Back But Won’t Admit It post image

“Nothing ends nicely. That’s why it ends.” – Tom Cruise

Who has ever had a friendly, lighthearted breakup? One where both people calmly and without emotion decided it was time to make a clean break? Closure tied up in a pretty bow?

Not anyone human. Or, at least, not any human coming out of a relationship that held any meaning for them.

Since breakups can be a whirlwind of confusion, betrayal, and heightened emotions of all kinds, figuring out how to proceed afterward can be just as tied up with angst. For the first week, you don’t even recognize the person you are. When you share your life with someone, some of your identity becomes intertwined with them. When they are gone, your whole reality shifts.

What can make that process even harder is when your ex decides to muddy the waters by showing signs he wants you back. You’re left to wonder if he’s just going through the same turmoil of the breakup you are, or if his actions are legitimate.

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If he does truly want to get back together, is that really a good idea? How do you know when, or if, you should act on some of these potential “signs?” Are they even real signs?

For advice on identifying these clues (and what to do about them), read on.

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How to Make Your Ex Miss You After a Breakup: Exactly What to Do post image

If you’re reading this article it means you want to make your ex miss you so that you can get him back. I am all too familiar with the feeling of wanting your ex back, believe me! (My story did, fortunately, have a happy ending and I am actually married to an ex!)

I understand where your head is at, but here’s the thing. Getting him to miss you is only a small part of the equation and that isn’t necessarily going to guarantee he comes back. At the same time, if he doesn’t miss you then he’ll never come back, so it’s certainly important!

But there’s more to the story. Missing someone isn’t enough of a reason to get back together. You broke up for a reason, probably several reasons, and those reasons don’t disappear because you miss each other.

If you only tried to make him miss you, you might get him back, but it wouldn’t last. (Make sure to also read this article for the exact signs your ex misses you.)

Fortunately, it is possible to get your ex back and make it work the second time around. In this article, I’m not only going to tell you how to make him miss you, I’ll reveal exactly how to get him back and keep him for good this time.

This article will include my own insights as well as scientific research to back me up and provide some very interesting insights. Let’s begin.

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There are countless women out there desperate to get their ex back. I should know, I was once one of them and I actually am now married to my ex!

Getting him back actually isn’t that hard. Making it work the second time around is the tough part that trips most people up and that’s what leads to an endless on-again, off-again relationship cycle that could cost you years of your life.

You can’t just dive back into the relationship and expect everything to be different this time around. You broke up for a reason, probably several reasons, and those reasons will still be there unless properly dealt with. You can’t do the same thing and expect different results, that’s just insane (literally, I think that’s the actual definition of insanity).

You can’t really follow your heart here, you need to follow a plan. And I’ve got you covered on that front!

Having a plan will not only help you to navigate the situation smoothly and effortlessly, but can also save you weeks, months, or even years of emotional turmoil and distress.

A breakup can leave you feeling hurt, confused, and emotionally drained. This isn’t exactly a healthy place to be making life-changing decisions from.

A good plan will provide you the structure and support you need to get your ex back for good. It will help you get yourself back on track emotionally and mentally so that you and your ex will have a chance of really making it work the second time around. After all, that’s the goal.

MORE: 6 Ways to Get Over Even the Worst Breakup

You not only want to get your ex back, you want to be able to keep him. Without a plan, it is easy to fall into familiar patterns that could hurt your chances of ever getting him back at all — or getting him back only to lose him again soon after.

I get ex-back questions all the time so I decided to write one article that addresses them all from start to finish. This article will give you the exact steps to take to deal your emotional state after a break-up and will guide you every step of the way to getting your ex back and keeping him forever. Let’s begin!

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How to Tell Whether Your Ex Boyfriend Still Loves You Guaranteed post image

After a breakup, one of your first questions will probably be: Does he still love me?

Love doesn’t usually just evaporate because you broke up. Yes, sometimes a breakup happens because one or both partners fell out of love (the classic, I love you but I’m not in love with you scenario), but more often people break up not because they don’t love each other, but because that love just wasn’t enough and they couldn’t make it work.

If there is any chance of you and your ex getting back together, that love still needs to be there. But other elements also need to be in place, and we’ll discuss those as well in this article.

I will also give you a list of definitive signs that your ex does still love you, and that there still is a chance to make it work.

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15 Biggest Signs Your Ex Doesn’t Want You Back post image

Breakups can be tough. Whether it is the end of a summer romance or a five-year relationship, a break-up can leave you heartbroken and confused. As much as it hurts to see the one you love walk away, not knowing what comes next can be just as devastating.

There are so many questions you probably want answers to. What went wrong? Does he still love me? Will he ever come back?

It is so easy to get consumed by the need to know where he stands and how he feels about you. And from that place, it’s difficult to move on powerfully. Fear and uncertainty about the future can keep you stuck and prevent you from being truly committed to your quest to find lasting love.

MORE: Hidden Signs Your Ex Still Loves You 

Knowing for sure that the relationship is over can really help to give you peace of mind. Seeing things for exactly what they are can also bring the freedom you need to move on.

To help you gain a sense of clarity, here are 15 undeniable signs that he doesn’t want you back.

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9 Biggest Reasons Why the No Contact Rule Always Works post image

Let’s talk about the no contact rule … the only “rule” we really support here at A New Mode!

Breakups are brutal, there are no two ways around it. You feel empty and broken, and there’s the pain … so much pain. The pain of no longer having the person who you love. It doesn’t get much tougher than that.

You’re also gripped by confusion. There is a part of you that desperately wants him back, and there’s another part of you that wants to move on.

Most of all, you just want to feel better and one of the biggest post-breakup mistakes is thinking that the only way you’ll feel better is if you get him back. You’re in a massive amount of pain and just want to make it go away.

But it doesn’t come through staying in touch with him or continuing to see him. That only makes things worse. What solves everything is following the no contact rule.

Read on to find out what it’s all about and why it always works.

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9 Undeniable Signs Your Ex Has Moved On and It’s Really over post image

Is it really over with your ex… or is there still a chance you can get him back?

When things go bad in a relationship there might be a chance it can be worked out, but this requires you both to work together. When that isn’t going to happen because one or both of you isn’t sufficiently invested, you need to accept that it’s over, it can’t be fixed, and you have to move on.

Breakups are almost always incredibly painful, but they can be especially painful if you keep hanging on and hoping he’ll change his mind. When this happens you don’t get the closure you need.

Sometimes the best way to free yourself and move on is knowing with 100% clarity that he’s moved on and it’s truly over.

MORE: Hidden Signs Your Ex Still Loves You 

If there’s no chance and no hope of you getting back together, this mentally frees you to move on and eventually find someone new, someone better suited for you.

But how can you know for sure that it’s really over? Here are the signs that make it crystal clear your ex has moved on and it’s really over for good. [Click here to keep reading…]

The No Contact Rule: Everything You Need to Know post image

If you’ve read any of my articles or books you know I’m not a fan of rules when it comes to relationships. I think rules treat the symptoms, not the disease, but that’s a tangent for a different time!

The only “rule” you might hear me reference is the “no contact rule.” This is something I’ve discussed when I write about how to get your ex back and is a concept I get asked about frequently, but I noticed it often gets misinterpreted and done completely wrong so I figured it was worth writing an article exclusively on this subject.

The no contact rule is exactly what it sounds like. After a breakup, you resolve to not contact your ex for a determined amount of time. Easy in theory, not always easy in practice.

When done right, the no contact rule can get you the exact relationship you’ve always wanted (and not always with your ex, sometimes you’ll be surprised where it takes you). When done wrong, you just end up wasting even more of your precious time pining away for someone who isn’t meant for you.

So let’s get down to the nitty-gritty and talk about everything you need to know about the no contact rule.

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Ask a Guy: I Want My Ex Back post image

My ex and I had a perfect nine months: no fights, some arguments of course, but everything was great.

I was always worried a little about this ex girlfriend. She left him for another guy and he never got over it… or over her I guess.

When she became available again, he left me for her!  I don’t understand what happened … I just know I want him back.  What should I do?

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