There’s this guy that I met a few weeks ago, he’s an old friend of my best friend and they know each other really well. All of us started hanging out together and eventually he and I hooked up. To explain my “problem” I have to tell the most important facts:
He plays in a band, is good looking, and has a lot of girls chasing after him. My sister warned me not to expect a lot from somebody like him, because he seems unpredictable. But my best friend, who knows him much better (but can be a little naïve) thinks the best of him, and said that he’s looking for something more than what those girls “offer”.
He showed interest from the first time we met- asking things about me, inviting me to come over to some party, etc- but I think this is just the way he is. He’s nice to everybody so I don’t think I was treated special or something.
We talked for hours before kissing each other. It was nothing I was planning, it kind of just happened because of the situation. But it was a great night and he told me he liked it too, he also said a lot of cute things to me, and tried to be a gentleman etc.
I promised him I would call him, but I forgot it, so he called me the next day and we went out at night (but with my other friend as well, nothing like a date). Later that night he told me that I should call him sometime because he didn’t want to be the “only one who puts effort in this” and I said that I would text message him (I don’t like calling people in general). The next day I just sent him a message late at night, saying I thought a lot about him. He called me the next night and referred to my text, saying that he thought about me too, especially about the kiss.
I didn’t contact him for 3 days, and when I did, I asked him if he wanted to go out with a group of us (message, no call). He answered the next day, apologizing that he didn’t write sooner and just asking if he could call me the next day. He called but I didn’t get it, so we didn’t talk anymore.
Okay, so my question is: from what you know about him (womanizer, band/party-guy but polite and friendly and good friend) and what happened between us, do you think he is just being nice and polite in calling or texting me back, and doing this because he kind of feels he “has to”, or do you think he could possibly be interested in me? I usually know pretty well what I want (or not) but this time I’m completely clueless. My sister’s advice was to not expect anything from him and she kind of thinks he’s a selfish guy (or in a selfish phase of his life) but my best friend likes him a lot and doesn’t really agree with with my sister’s negative thinking.
And I don’t really know, he did show that he liked me at first, but then he went a week without calling me (but then again, I didn’t call him either).
I really don’t want to like a guy who couldn’t care less, but I don’t want to give up before anything has started. Do you think I should stop expecting something from him and move on to being friends or do you think there is no risk in going on and liking him (I know, no risk no fun, but I had enough of disappointments)? And what could I do in those situations when I don’t know if he just liked the kiss (as he said) or if he actually liked me as well?
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