one where two people feel fulfilled by their individual lives and let that joy and sense of fullness spill into their relationship. They each bring something to the table and can comfortably give and receive. A dysfunctional relationship is when one or both people believes the other person can “give them” something or that there’s something to “get” from the other person.
So what’s the solution? If you just enjoy life and engaging with him and make nothing of it, your vibe will still be enjoyable to be around and he will continue hanging out with you. When he feels good around you, he’ll want to be around you. When he feels like you’re trying to get something out of him, he will want nothing to do with you. It really is as simple as that.
I also want to add that this isn’t the only reason a man will lose interest, it’s just the most common and most misunderstood one. The problem is most people don’t accurately define what the problem is. It gets written off as the woman being too available and not making him chase her. That is not really what’s at play here. Being available isn’t the issue, the issue is really not being present. It’s an issue that comes from seeking validation through a relationship rather than in your life.
It is also worth noting that sometimes two people can be happy and satisfied in their lives and just not a match. Compatibility can’t be forced or created. It also can’t be ignored. If you’re incompatible, it will come to the surface eventually and a relationship can’t last without a foundation of fundamental compatibility.
The winning strategy when it comes to love is to bring your best self to the table and not stress over your relationship. Instead, trust that if it’s right it will work out, and if it’s not right you’ll be free to move toward something that is the right match for you.
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