that it’s up to you to draw the line in the sand, as hard as that will be. You don’t want to do it because you want him in your life and you want him back and you’re afraid if you cut him off then he’ll be gone forever. That’s a possibility, but if he doesn’t come back then it means the relationship was never going to last anyway, and at least you cut it off early instead of letting things drag on for an indefinite amount of time.
Just remember, why would you ever want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you? Why would you want to invest in someone who no longer wants to invest in you? You’re worth way more than that!
If he keeps contacting you, just kindly tell him you need space to focus on yourself and your own life. Don’t be cruel or nasty about it, be casual, calm, and composed. He will probably be taken aback by your new attitude, but don’t let that change things. Remember, take time for you. Make yourself the priority during this time.
That’s what the no contact rule is all about—helping you get to a better place emotionally and mentally. It’s about getting the necessary perspective that can only come with some distance from him and the relationship. The no contact rule can get you the exact relationship you’ve always wanted because it gives you time to focus on yourself and your relationship needs and decide who is really right for you. Maybe it’s your ex, but more likely it’s someone new.
Hope this cleared up any lingering confusion. Be sure to take our “Can I Get My Ex Back Or Is He Gone Forever?” quiz to know if you’re wastng time on a dead end.
Lots of love,