giving him psychological space. A lot of other dating advice writers like to talk about waiting X number of days or holding out to make him text/call you first.
The fact is – if you’re needy and obsessing over him and your relationship with him, he’ll still feel it… even if you’re not calling or texting during that time. He’ll know – guys have a very good sense of it.
In that case, you’re not texting him, but he’ll still feel like he has no psychological space… he might not be talking to you because he feels like it’s an extremely delicate act, like walking on eggshells. And that’s very exhausting for a guy.
He’ll feel that way because he picked up on that energy from the girl. She can do all the “rules” in the book, but if he feels like she’s desperately obsessing over the situation turning into a relationship, he will want to escape (unless of course he also seeking that…)
To answer your question, go ahead and initiate contact. It won’t “hurt” anything… if he’s picking up neediness, from you then the damage was already done. Contacting won’t change it.
And if he likes you and was just caught up and busy, he’ll be happy to hear from you.
The biggest reason I’m harping on this whole texting thing is that when I see a woman stressing about something so trivial, it is a strong sign to me that she’s obsessing about the relationship. And that obsession leads to overwhelming fears and insecurities… which leads into neediness… which leads into acting desperate and making mistakes that drive the guy away.
To tie it up: your frequency of texting doesn’t matter if you’re truly not needy. And if you are needy, he’ll pick up on it sooner or later – no amount of texting rules will hide it.
Hope that helps,