Not sure if a guy likes you? Forget the words and pay attention to his body language, because that never lies.
It’s hard to tell how a guy feels based on his words. Men just aren’t as naturally verbal and expressive as most women are. When a guy likes you, he won’t necessarily come right out and say it. Maybe he’s shy, maybe he’s insecure, maybe he’s afraid of rejection, and so on. While he can hold back from saying the words, he won’t be able to control his body language, because a lot of the body language signs that mean he likes you are unconscious behaviors. Some are even reflexes and reactions that we can’t control even if we try.
Body language doesn’t lie and is the number one way to tell how someone feels about you.
Read on for body language signs that mean he is definitely into you.
1. He Can’t Help but Smile
When you’re around him, he smiles so much it looks like his face hurts. When we like someone, we are happy just to be around them. When we are happy, we smile! When he is into you, he’ll give you genuine, whole face smiles that will extend up to the corner crinkles of his eyes. A fake smile will stop at the mouth.
2. He Finds Ways to Touch You
When a guy likes you, you’re a magnet and he can’t resist the pull. He may put his hand on your shoulder, on the small of your back, brush your cheek, touch your knee, and so on. It’s not even conscious most of the time, he can’t help it!
He may find “innocent” ways to touch you that aren’t as overt as gentle caresses- maybe a thumb wrestling match, or a high-five that lingers a little too long, or any other game that involves a little touching. His touches can also be a way of testing the waters and seeing how you respond, which might tell him if you’re interested.
3. His Pupils Dilate
Our pupils dilate when we see something we like. When he’s into you, his pupils will dilate when he sees you. It can be hard to figure this out if the light in the room is very bright or dark, and you’ll look nuts if you fixate on trying to measure the size of his pupils, so if it’s hard to see, just let this one go.
4. He Makes Eye Contact
Eyes are the window to the soul. When we like someone, we will make eye contact to try to look into their soul. When you lock eyes, you build a high level of intimate connection with someone. In fact, it’s the highest amount of intimacy you can build without touching. A major sign that he likes you is if he’ll make eye contact with you from across the room, then look away, then reestablish eye contact.
5. He Stares at Your Face
Staring into someone’s eyes for too long can be creepy and uncomfortable. Instead, a guy who’s into you will take in your whole visage. He might do a circle of your face, staring at your lips, your cheeks, your forehead, and your eyes, then back around again. He also might especially hone in on your lips!
6. He Does the ‘Eyebrow Flash”
What’s the eyebrow flash? If you see something or someone you like, chances are that your eyebrows raise reflexively. This is called the eyebrow flash. Men especially do this subconsciously when they are interested. It happens quickly, only taking a split second. Blink and you’ll miss it.
7. He Leans in Close
When you are interested in what someone is saying, you lean in. It’s something we all instinctually do. When a man is interested in you, he’ll lean in even if he can hear what you’re saying perfectly. Closing the gap between you creates intimacy.
Most people are protective of their personal space. This boundary changes when they really like someone, then they want them to come in. Leaning in shows interest in the same way that leaning away shows disinterest.
8. He Keeps His Feet Angled Towards You
When you like someone, your body shows it, even your feet. Angling your feet is a natural occurrence when you like someone. When he likes you, he’ll point his feet directly at you to show interest and attraction.
9. He Preens Himself
You’ve seen him when he’s with his friends, then you’ve seen him when he has the chance to be around you. He dresses better and smells nicer. This shows he cares what you think about him. He also may preen himself while you’re around. He might fuss with his hair, stroke his tie, straighten his shirt, or pop a breath mint in your presence.
10. He Fidgets
Guys tend to forget what to do with their hands when they are talking with the girl they like. He might touch his hair, then move his hands smooth his shirt before putting them in his pockets, and he may begin the whole process again shortly after. He also may shift in his chair like he’s trying to get comfortable. This fidgeting is just his way of working off the nervous energy he feels in your presence.
11. His Palm is On Yours While Holding Hands
Wow, you’re holding hands! While this may seem like a huge step for you, it can also show just how much he is attracted to you. When he has his palm on yours, it’s a sign that he wants to get closer.
12. He Doesn’t Check His Phone
When you’re with him, it’s like he doesn’t care about the world around him. He doesn’t check his phone, even if he gets calls or texts. He focuses his attention fully on you.
13. He is Relaxed When You Touch Him
You’re sitting next to him and your legs touch, he doesn’t instinctively pull his away, he just stays there perfectly still and comfortable. When you’re interested in someone, you don’t mind when they violate your personal space a bit, and you welcome any form of touching from them.
When a guy likes a girl, he’ll stay relaxed, even when she reaches out to touch him. He might even get closer to subconsciously invite more of your touching. People are normally protective when it comes to touching. If he is fully at ease when you touch him, it’s because he’s interested in you.n
14. He Stares at You
You catch him staring from across the room. When we are drawn to someone, we can’t look away. We don’t want to miss a glance of the person we like. You’ll catch him not only staring, but checking you out. He just won’t be able to help himself.
15. He Mirrors You
You cross your arms, he crosses his. You use the words “like” and “epic” a lot, and though you haven’t heard it in his vocabulary before, he uses them too. This is known as mirroring. We mirror someone when we want to make them like us, be it for romantic or platonic reasons. Romantically, it’s known as a courtship dance. Sometimes it’s conscious. Other times, it isn’t. Either way, it’s used, it’s a way to create intimacy and get closer to the person we are interested in. (Learn the science behind mirroring here.)
16. He Blushes
His cheeks redden, he looks away. The blush is probably the easiest sign that he’s into you to spot. It’s also the hardest body language sign for him to hide. He may blush when you tease him, when you stare at him, or simply when you make eye contact. If he’s interested in you, it’ll be all over his rosy face.
17. He Faces You
If you sit at a table or on a couch, he’ll position himself so he can see you. He will always want to be able to look at you directly, whether he’s having a conversation with you or he’s across the room. When you like someone, you’ll subconsciously face your body so that you can watch the person you are attracted to.
18. His Lips Part
When he sees you, he changes his whole expression. You’ve seen this happen. However, to be sure he likes you, watch his lips. It might happen as soon as he sees you or it might take some time, but it will happen, and is a definite body language cue that he likes you.
19. He Stands Broad and Tall
When you walk into the room, his posture will change. If he was slouching before, he’ll stand up straight. This happens subconsciously. He might even puff up his chest. He wants to look manly and attract your attention. He could even “accidentally” flex his muscles to show them off.
20. He Walks Next to You
It doesn’t matter if he was out jogging and ran into you or if he was sightseeing or exploring and saw you – he glues himself by your side. It has been scientifically proven that when a guy likes you, he’ll match your pace, whether it be slow or fast. Men adjust their speed to walk beside who they like… or love. Since humans walk efficiently to conserve energy, this is a major sign he’s into you.
21. His Voice Changes
It’s most likely subconscious; when you’re with him, his voice becomes deeper. This is because our voices change when we talk to someone we’re attracted to. Your man may speak in a lower pitch. This can be a hard sign to spot, so try to figure out his normal tone before you assume anything.
22. He Finds You Hilarious
It doesn’t matter what you say; he laughs at even your lamest jokes. He laughs when you do, even if what you find funny isn’t so funny. This sign happens because, like mirroring, he wants to make you like him. If you can make him laugh easily, there’s a sure bet that he likes you.
An Important Point About Reading the Signs…
I know you want quick answers to your problem, but I would be remiss if I didn’t say that you shouldn’t expend all your energy on reading the signs.
If you’re too busy looking for signs he likes you and reacting to his reaction, you won’t be putting your attention on what matters. If you’re with a guy and you think he could be a romantic match for you, you want to put your attention on whether he is on the same “frequency” as you. When you express things, does he get where you’re coming from? Are your interactions easy and fun and light? Or do you feel they’re riddled with effort-ing on your part?
Instead of worrying if he’s into you, set a new frame of mind: You’re looking for people who are on the same wavelength as you. If they’re not, it doesn’t mean they’re bad people or that you were “rejected”… it just means they’re not on your wavelength and, romantically, they can be considered “invisible” to you.
Think of it like this – you meet thousands of people throughout your life… how many people become a best friend? Not many… probably few enough to count on one or two hands.
And is that a problem? No… everyone else is fine, but your best friends are really, really on your wavelength. You get each other… and so the communication, the connection is effortless and the focus is on enjoying each other and sharing with each other, not trying to get them to accept you or understand you or “get” you or get on the same page as you or be impressed by you, etc.
This is a totally different way of “viewing” this whole aspect of dating, right? People get so hung up on not being rejected and being impressive to other people that they never stop to consider any of this. But when you think like this, you have a great, easy, fulfilling love life.
Body Language Signs That He’s Into You:
- He can’t help but smile.
- He finds ways to touch you.
- His pupils dilate.
- He makes eye contact.
- He stares at your face.
- He does the eyebrow flash.
- He leans in close.
- He keeps his feet angled towards you.
- He preens himself.
- He fidgets.
- His palm is on yours while holding hands.
- He doesn’t check his phone.
- He is relaxed when you touch him.
- He stares at you.
- He mirrors you.
- He blushes.
- He faces you.
- His lips part.
- He stands broad and tall.
- He walks next to you.
- His voice changes.
- He finds you hilarious.