Everyone has their own unique vision of a perfect relationship, but it’s safe to say that no matter what that picture is, it includes being a top priority.
On a universal level, everyone wants to feel like they are hugely important in their partner’s life. You want to be cherished, not be relegated to an afterthought at the end of the day. You want a man who is over the moon to have found a woman like you, a man who loves you just as much as (if not more than!) you love him.
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Sadly, sometimes a man just isn’t present and connecting in this way. He might be distracted by other things in his life, such as work or family problems. Maybe he secretly doesn’t see a legitimate future with you, and as a result, isn’t putting in the effort.
When this is the case, it’s crucial you spot it as early as possible. If you see the signs, don’t fall into the trap of thinking things will change. Think of your friends who have put their sweat and tears into changing a relationship like this. It never works.
Save yourself the time and emotional stress by seeing for yourself if you’re really a priority in his life. Once you are open to them, you’ll see if the signs are there.